Where is the Boundary Line?

When the Fall of the year is mature, landowners re-establish and re-mark their land boundaries with (high visibility), “No Hunting” or “No Trespassing” signs. This is done to help control who is welcomed on the land to take of its bounty, OR NOT! Permission is required by the owner. The signs are usually fluorescent so they are (highly visible). There can be no question “Where is the Boundary Line?”

An abuser of control in our lives, be it a spouse, a parent, a child, a co-worker, co-student or whoever, can often be identified by their “extreme high to low emotions”. They use emotions to CONTROL and sometimes their physic. They cross over or try to establish “illegal” or “unhealthy boundaries” in a relationship! The victims response often is “Oh good, he/she is in a good mood, or Oh no, he/she is angry and I need to avoid or appease them!” Sound familiar? “Where is the  Boundary Line?”

Similar to the analogy of the land owner, the “trespasser” establishes control because there are no (high visibility) signs or healthy boundaries  used to keep un-welcome people (controlling abusers) out. In this unruly relationship, mental and sometimes physical or even sexual molestation is commonplace. The heart attitude connected to this abuse is often rage, division, and word cursing and threats. Lawlessness abounds, joy is manipulated at best, and bondage dominates. Matthew 24:12 “Where lawlessness abounds, the love of many will grow cold.”

Establishing healthy boundaries (high visibility signs) with the said abuser allows you to separate yourself far enough from them, so you can seek God and seek counsel for God to bless them, and heal them at the root of their problems. The question is are you tired enough of fear and intimidation to establish healthy (high visibility) boundaries that can bring change? “Where is the Boundary Line?”

If you are being trespassed upon, you may need to seek help from authorities to help you establish new boundaries.

“Healthy Boundaries” is another part of our Quest for Freedom! Galatians 5:1 “It was for freedom that Christ has set us free…”

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  1. connie Post says: Reply

    bob. well written and good illustrations..In fact I was thinking of rereading my Boundaries book and this just tells me to go do it…..Bless You, Connie

    1. Thanks Connie for the kind words. I am excited that the timing of this was in line with what you feel God is doing in your life… I love it when the Holy Spirit does that! Blessings as you study! Bless you back! Bob

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