Are You “ornery” or Honoring?

Jesus tells a story about an ornery “young son” who asked his father for an early collection of his inheritance. We all know this famous story in Luke 15, that when the son had wasted everything, he came to his senses, and came home humbly asking for a place as a slave. What was his fathers response? In return for his “ornery” ways his father highly honored him with a robe, new sandals, and a ring. Jack Frost of (Shiloh Place Ministries) used to say “Completely failed, utterly restored”, re-instated to son-ship! Selah.  Jesus also honored his chief betrayer Judas Iscariot by washing his feet along with the other 11 disciples. Are we to honor those whom we perceive as ornery? The real question is, will we choose to honor them? This requires change! Honor is one of the things God is teaching me about in this season of my life! After having grown up in an alcoholic home, there really wasn’t a good model of that for me. Now my father and I have worked through most of our issues, and we are on better terms now than we ever were. We actually honor each other now, more than ever. Could we conclude that when people choose to get real with each other and break the unspoken rules most dysfunctional families practice, “Don’t Trust, Don’t Speak, Don’t Feel”, an environment is put in place for “honoring” to increase!

I often write about the negative side of “issues” probably due to my “exhorter” gifting. I will briefly mention one opposite of  “Honor” which is “ornery”. Are you “ornery” or Honoring? Below is what I found on-line about this word. Ask yourself, would those you call friends or family members, or even you yourself, describe “you” in any of these terms?

Main Entry:                 ornery


cantankerous, contemptible, crabby, cranky, crusty, difficult, disagreeable, grouchy, grumpy*, hard-nosed, ignoble, ill-tempered, irritable, nasty, obstinate, quarrelsome, rotten, sour, surly, testy, unfriendly, vicious

How can we transition our soul-ish behavior to a more spiritually rich demeanor? We would do well to imprint the word “HONOR” in the forefront of our minds, and very deliberately pray about, meditate on, and even converse with others about what “HONOR” looks like and ways we can begin to walk this out. The benefits are numerous and divers.

Taking “honor” a step further, I am convinced that if we learn to honor all people, even those who don’t necessarily deserve honor, that the biblical principal or “law” of sowing and reaping will kick in and we will begin to experience being honorable!

I want to give you a definition for honor to help you build a foundation in this journey;

Main Entry honor


acclaim, admire, adore, aggrandize, appreciate, be faithful, be true, celebrate, commemorate, commend, compliment, decorate, dignify, distinguish, ennoble, erect, esteem, exalt, give glad hand, give key to city, glorify, hallow, keep, laud, lionize, live up to, look up to, magnify, observe, praise, prize, revere, roll out red carpet, sanctify, sublime, uprear, value, venerate, worship

Here are three ways we can initiate this godly and “lives changing” transition.

1. Be very deliberate to honor ALL people.

2. Spend less energy being “ornery”.

3. Ask God to show you the people and ways you can practice “honoring”.

Enjoy the transition!

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7 Comment

  1. Chuck Hostetter says: Reply

    Hey Bob,
    Great word and so true. I preached on honoring one another just a week ago. Still being challenged to live it out though especially to those that we may feel don’t deserve honor or have dishonored us.

    Blessings my brother


  2. kelly says: Reply

    good one honey!

  3. Margaret says: Reply

    Hi Bob, Good word, harder to practice! Do you have a full definition of ‘honour’ as well? Love you guys and miss you. Margaret

    1. great idea Margaret, I have just added it! Thanks!

  4. Terry says: Reply

    I like the description of “ornery” and “honoring” and the comparison. I think it is very easy to relate to the word “ornery” and easy to look at oneself and see that. The story is often told about he was a “bad son”. The word “ornery” puts a whole new light on it and unfortunately it reflects back. Thanks for the reminder to to be honoring to all, not just those around us.

  5. Bob,
    I think I was ornery this morning while I was runing the church bookstore. Some new books weren’t scanning correctly and a couple weren’t scanning at all. The customer was in a hurry and she thought I didn’t know what I was doing so she was trying to help. She didn’t know the problen I was having and she was saying “Why don’t you….” (she doesn’t work in the bookstore and doesn’t know what we do) and my response was “Why don’t you let me scan these in so I can give you a total and you can pay for them?” She just looked at me. Now I don’t know if I was so ornery or just stating what I needed to do in no uncertain terms. I don’t work with the public because of hassles like this. What do ya think I should have done differently?

  6. Thanks so much for the advice!
    I appreciate your input now and future. I truly do want to further develop my writing skills. Sometimes with WordPress it is difficult to get the program to respond to formatting, such as line spaces. I have experienced wanting to insert a space and WP not responding. In the edit window it inserts space, on the preview it is not there??? Weird.

    Thanks to for the heads up on terminology. You are so right about diversity in audience.

    If you ever have time, I would love to hear your comments on my other blogs. I am considering making a paperback devotional focused on healing the soul.

    Every Blessing for a great 2010!
    Bob Parr

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